Preparing To Move Country
So your visa has come through, you've arranged your flights and luggage, all thats left is the waiting game. You are probably really excited, as was I, however there are plenty of unexpected things that come up in the final weeks that I had issues dealing with because I honestly just wasn't prepared for the stress or how emotionally draining it can be. So hopefully after reading this it clears up anything you might be worried about or that it might prepare you for the things to come.
SELLING YOUR LIFE
Now of course I don't mean this in a literal sense but if you are like me and you don't have the funds to ship your belongings over to your destination then you will be getting rid of a lot of things. It's like spring cleaning on steroids, if you can easily replace it in your new country, get rid! If it cant fit in your suitcase either say goodbye or ask a relative to store it away for you. The kind of attachment you have to an object you love but cant take is really strange, I became really bitter about a lot of my belongings that wouldn't fit but luckily my mother had enough space to store some of my clothes, my guitars and a good portion of my camera collection, however trying to fit your whole life so far into one suitcase (on a weight limit too) is far from easy.
PEOPLE ACTING LIKE YOU ARE ALREADY GONE
So there roughly 3 types of ways that people will react as your move date gets closer:
The first is 'Your new best friend', someone who you didnt really speak too much (or you may actually be besties) who wants to hang out with you a lot and spend time with you. While that kinda sounds annoying, after dealing with the other types of reactions you will really appreciate these people and how supportive they are of you and your choice to move.
The second is the 'Oh wait, you're still here?', so at this point you've either posted on facebook or made a group within which you have told people your moving date and maybe arranged some sort of leavers party to see everyone one last time. The people that fall under this category are the ones that won't show or give reasons as to why, I've had people delete me during the time leading up to my departure and another bunch who were always too busy to meet up. They pretty much act like you have already left the country, and I understand its hard to deal with a friend moving away but this isnt a good way to go about it.
The last is the 'can I come visit?', in the same way that pregnant women have the problem of everyone wanting to be a godparent until the child is born when most of those people vanish, you will also have a lot of people be supportive and chat to you a lot, ask to stay with you when they visit and say they will keep in touch but the majority you probably will never hear from after the fact.I'm really glad I had a really close group of friends outside of all this that were continually supportive and always around to grab a coffee with me and these people are the ones you really have to make the most of.
CUTTING TIES
Another thing you have to do is end all ties you have to your home country, this means like cutting off mobile phone contracts, cancelling subsriptions, either requesting for your medical records to be sent to your destination country or paying to have it printed out and given to you before you leave. I'm lucky that I was not a home owner or had a car because that is a lot more work to tie it off. If you are able to set up a bank account in your new country then its best to switch as close to your leave date as possible so you can close your current account before you leave, saves you paying for an international call to your bank to cancel over the phone when you arrive.
SAYING GOODBYE AT THE AIRPORT
I can quite easily tell you the two hardest things I've ever done in my life, one of them is leaving my fiancé at the airport and the other is hugging my mum and my nan goodbye before moving away. I'm not gonna lie I have seen my mother cry a few times and I had never seen my nan cry until this point but this is a completely different cry, I expect it's the same cry that occured when she came home to an empty house after dropping me at my first day of school, except this time I'm moving 4000 miles away to a state she's never seen. It's really tough to experience and nothing I can say on here will prepare you for it ever. Especially if you are the parent watching your child go. Just hold them really tight...
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